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Should I make the first move: I don’t even chase my shots, what makes you think I’ll chase after you?

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In the cat and mouse game of boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, and they live happily ever after, we see that the gentleman tends to be the protagonist, it is rarely ever girl meets boy, girl falls in love with boy, and then they live happily ever after. I stress the importance of looking at this traditional model of how a couple comes to be, because it seems that our ladies want to take charge of what should be male dominated and motivated chase for love. If a guy is interested in you, you won’t have to do anything, he will let you know, it is innate in a man to hunt and that characteristic does not only apply to hunting for food, but also with respect to hunting for the woman who will be his life long mate. Ladies, men enjoy the hunt, the chase, the pursuit of their female counterparts, some are even more motivated after having been rejected. The male species accepts the challenge presented to them when their particular love interest does not give into their charming words and suave demeanor so easily, rather it puts them on alert, they feel challenged to step their game up, and this is when they tend to show their best hand. Besides wouldn’t you prefer a man that thinks you are worth it enough to work hard to get your attention? I say if he is not willing to make the effort, then he certainly is not worth my time. God instructs us,”Whatever you do, do well. For when you go to the grave, there will be no work or planning or knowledge or wisdom.” – Ecclesiastes 9:10. Given those words of wisdom, these men should very well know if they are pursuing a love interest, they should do so excellently (yes that’s a word). So ladies don’t waste your time trying to win the affections of a man who does not even notice you, instead continue to grow into a virtuous woman, complete with all the Godly characteristics which The Lord requires of you so you can be the wife and companion God desires you to be. Remember, the right plan forced to happen at the wrong time, could turn out to be a disaster  re: Abraham and Sarah.

                                                      

Let’s do a case study of some successful unions of long ago:

When it was time for Isaac to marry, he didn’t go, but he sent his servant loaded with fine gifts, silver and gold to present to his wife to be, he sent his servant to proclaim his intentions and explain his family’s background and reputation as servants of God, his servant made it clear  that God had led him to her. Important to note is that Rebekah and her family were impressed by such an elaborate proposal but more so by the fact that this was God-directed more than anything else, so she said yes. Upon their return Isaac greeted her and immediately they were married (Genesis 24)

 

Now let’s look at Jacob and Rachel, this was a man who really loved a woman, you know the song says “When a man loves a woman, he’ll trade the world for the good thing he’s found.” Well Jacob traded 14 years of hard labor to be able to marry Rachel even after her father duped him into marrying her sister. His love for her was so great that fourteen years seemed like days (Genesis 29). What a labor of love! Now that’s a man who showed true determination and effort to win the love of his life. If Jacob could do all of that, why would you…yes I’m talking to you women out there, settle for less??? Stop letting these men who make no effort to impress, pursue, or woo, and who bring nothing to the table, come into your hearts. In the words of Sweet brown “ain’t nobody got time for that!”

 

Last but not least we explore the joining of Ruth and Boaz. Boaz was a kind and thoughtful man, he showed Ruth great kindness as she worked in his fields, he provided her water when she was thirsty, food when she was hungry, and protection as she worked. He even took the time to learn about her and her family’s history. Boaz showed himself to be an honorable man, first talking to the other suitors of Ruth before pursuing her himself, he let them know he was serious, and that he intended to marry her (Ruth1-4). There was nothing shady about Boaz, he kept true to his word, he did not tell Ruth one thing in the dark then profess something contrary to the public; rather he stood by what he said and took care of the woman he thought to be virtuous and worthy of his love.

So ladies, do not undervalue yourselves, you are a child of the king thus you are a princess and should be treated as such. If a gentleman is genuinely interested in you and has good intentions for beginning and maintaining a relationship with you, he knows what he has to do. Do not be fooled, even players know how to treat a woman right, they just choose not to. So bottom line DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS, because we all know anything worth having requires hard work. 

Love Ms. B

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To Cheat or not to Cheat!!!

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When one cheats, someone always gets hurt

This morning you made me cry
Not because something was stuck in my eye,
but because I realized you were interested in another guy
It started off as innocent conversation and jokes between a mutual friend and I
But I soon got caught up and began to entice
My mind wandered with thoughts of what could be, and no sooner creeped the thoughts of infidelity
My thoughts they were stronger now, plaguing my brain all the time
That no later had I seen her face, had I wished for a sweet embrace
I could no longer tell which girl was mine to be faithful to,
Mine to hold dear and true
Soon my true love or what she should have been
Caught a hint that someway, somehow, I had grown distant
She pondered, she questioned, and tried as hard as she could
To please me in anyway that was imaginable
But you see my brain so confused by what started out as innocent
Could not give her a hint of my allegiance
To our love, our story, our happily ever after
So she sat there sad and alone wondering what If she too found some new attracter
Slowly but surely she drifted away, this is when I started wondering had I made a mistake?
Entertaining all that The Lord had not ordained
My, my, my why did I have to start that conversation with my buddy that day
Now what was once a happy home has a distorted end
I’ve lost my love, I’ve lost my wife, I’ve lost my true happy end
All because I because I just had to entertain my friend.

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Many have experienced the emotional pain that devolves from infidelity or a cheating partner. If you choose to be in a relationship, you do stand the risk of getting hurt, but some hurts can be avoided. When two people commit to be in a relationship, they undertake the obligation and expectation of being faithful to each other. Being faithful requires a little more than the words, “I will be faithful” but more so requires great action and responsibility on the part of each partner. For instance, if I were to see an attractive man, and I see him actively trying to engage me with his eyes, I avoid eye contact and try to get as far away as possible just like my boy Joseph did in the face of great temptation with Potiphar’s wife. In some cases, one might find themselves actively staring at an attractive person, to you I would say avoid this! Simply program your mind not to look so hard, besides it being rude, such an action is just the beginning of the future manifestations of our sinful nature. 

God’s word already warns us of the consequences of such actions. In Matthew 5:28- But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. We must be careful what we allow our minds to dwell upon because, soon our thoughts turn into actions. I know you may think this is easier said than done, but if you take a step back, and really think about how much you value your spouse, partner, girlfriend, or boyfriend, and your relationship, you will not do anything or think anything that would threaten to destroy such. Before you take the step down the narrow winding road of infidelity think of the expected end, it never ends well. In the other hand, if you are the type of person whose eyes can’t help but stray, it just might be best for you to stay single. As the good book says, “do unto others as you would like them to do unto you,” – Luke 6:31. So my friends today I say go forth and flirt…not with anyone else but with your partner, do a double-take when you look at him/her, remind yourself of why you are with him/her, admire your partner’s physical attributes and say to them (and mean it), “Babe I’m hot for you and you only!”

Love, Ms. B

P.S. Please take our poll about infidelity below. It is anonymous. 

 

Live with a Vision!

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On the surface God’s power is not always visible, but the person of faith knows that God is there, no matter what!1

After all…

 

His glory covered the heavens,

And the earth was full of His praise.

His brightness was like the light;

He had rays flashing from His hand,

And there His power was hidden.

Before Him went pestilence,

And fever followed at His feet.  

(Habakkuk 3:4,5)

One can persevere by living with a vision1. If you had a vision of a savior that could do this: 

He looked and startled the nations.

And the everlasting mountains were scattered,

The perpetual hills bowed….

The mountains saw You and trembled;

The overflowing of the water passed by.

The deep uttered its voice,And lifted its hands on high.

The sun and moon stood still in their habitation;

At the light of Your arrows they went, At the shining of Your glittering spear.

(Habakkuk 3: 6, 10, 11)

But then, when you heard the voice of the almighty this happened:

My body trembled; My lips quivered at the voice;

Rottenness entered my bones;

And I trembled in myself,

That I might rest in the day of trouble.

(Habakkuk 3:16)

“Looking back at how God brought me through”

But I remembered how you have brought me through before so I declared: 

Though the fig tree may not blossom,

Nor fruit be on the vines;

Though the labor of the olive may fail,

And the fields yield no food;

Though the flock may be cut off from the fold,

And there be no herd in the stalls—

 Yet I will rejoice in the Lord,

I will joy in the God of my salvation.

The Lord God is my strength;

He will make my feet like deer’s feet,

And He will make me walk on my high hills.

(Habakkuk 3:17-19)

Hallelujah! Hallelujah! Amen.

Love, Ms. B

1. Goldstein, C.R. Remembering God’s Fame. Adult Sabbath School Bible Study Guide.Pacific Press Publishing Association, Idaho. p.68.2013.

Fifty Shades of Gray

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Fifty Shades of Gray—— I think these are the hues through which women see, we blindly enter into dark, uncharacteristic, I must have lost my mind, relationships that have no future, and during the relationship (-is sinking), there is no true depth or profundity, in fact there is a complete lack of quality. The relationship constitutes and reflects an overwhelming color block exhibiting a blur of gray areas that we make excuses for. Loneliness is no excuse to drop your standards so far below the baseline that your virtue electrocardiogram blasts the familiar loud monotonous sound of  one’s values and principles flat-lining. Women  have we lost our self-worth so that we are no longer objective, logical, or sensible for that matter when choosing our mates?  Rather than allowing such a crucial and potentially life changing decision be heavily influenced by a sure, firm foundation of guiding principles, we allow something as transient and capricious as our feelings to be the strongest determining factor in choosing the one with which we would invest large amounts of our time, we instead listen to our deceitful  and untrustworthy hearts as the compass through life’s inevitable season of useless relationships? The word of God warns us that “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked, who can know it?” Jeremiah 17:9.  

So ladies can you really trust your heart?

If we compromise our principles, values, and standards which we have held for the majority of our lives for the sake of someone who comes into our lives for a moment, a minute, a miniscule amount of time relative to how long we’ve lived with ourselves, it begs to ask the question have I really thrown  away who I am for what might be a visitor.  One can liken such behavior to breaking down your home of 10 years, even changing its foundation, to rebuild another one so as to fashion it to the standards and liking of an out of town visitor whom you have known for less time than you have had your home.  Our relationship choices do not only affect us, but it can certainly impact others of whose lives we are a part. Think about the examples we would be setting for  other young ladies and young men looking toward us for guidance? Messages that echo ‘women take what you can get while you can get it’  and “men treat us anyway you like, it won’t make a difference, we will still bow to your every whim just because we rather have a partner than our self-respect’. …well I sure hope after you ladies read this, the buck stops here, because it is a disgrace to see the acts of folly and foolishness we women are willing to tolerate today. When you find yourself altering your behavior and carrying out inconceivable actions as a result of the presence of a new mate to which your friends and family respond negatively and with deep concern, then you must take a step back and really check yourself.

Before one decides to date, they should carefully evaluate the character of the individual; ask some poignant and explicit questions that would remove the layers and reveal the true character. Inquire about his past record, observe his behavior around friends and family or if possible in the work place, observe how he treats you (of course) – does he open the door?- does he walk on the outside of you closest to the traffic?- does he speak to you with courtesy? But most importantly, does he have a relationship with God? E.G White says, “Listen not to the proposals of a man who has no realization of his responsibility to God.”   This is absolutely true, because if the person whom you choose to invite into your life is not led by God, then you just never know what you’re gonna get… “take heed, lest what you now think to be pure gold turns out to be base metal (1). Now ladies and gents that statement right there is overflowing with wisdom, no one ever wants to get a six for a nine, or cubic zirconium rather than a diamond so please avoid the shades of gray and carefully screen before you decide to date. Do not be fooled by a pretty exterior….many red apples look rosy and nice till you bite into the rotten core.

When we date, risk is always involved, but it can be a wonderful process connecting with someone with whom you never knew before, developing a deep and fulfilling friendship by sharing numerous enjoyable experiences with each other, however in the midst of cloud nine, be aware, be vigilant, guard your character, and consider if this individual will allow you to preserve your individuality (1) or will he or she compromise your very character. Avoid the shades of gray because when it comes to your character and dignity there’s only black and white.

Love,

Ms. B

(1) White, E.G. The Adventist Home. Review and Herald Publishing Association. 2001

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It’s a beautiful day, you’re strolling down the streets of your local city and you happen to bump into a cute stranger, or huddling into a restaurant to have dinner with a group of friends, you happen to sit across from the new guy in the group, or maybe you’re at a business meeting, your pen falls and you and the handsome exec next to you bump heads as you reach to retrieve it, or better yet church has just finished and you’re exiting with the rest of the congregation when you and the brother across the way exchange a smile …. then it happens….. what you may ask, the otherwise considered accidental – now deemed fated handshake or other uncanny greeting that leads to the two’s meeting. The uncanny meeting leads to a lot of familiar greetings, unforgettable dates, and the beginning of a whirlwind romance. You’re happy, excited, and intrigued at the prospect of this new relationship. Butterflies flutter and your heart beats faster each time you’re in his presence, but…. PAUSE…. did you take the time to stop, and ask all the right questions???

The right questions…. hmmm … they seem to elude so many of us….

Well they could stem anywhere from how many sexual partners have you had to (my personal favorite), when you (my beloved) use a public bathroom, does your epidermis meet the enamel?

Simply put, would your lovely, debonair, ‘swept–you-off-your–feet’ prince, put his bare butt on a public toilet seat? I know you may think “ah, that’s trivial!” but I beg to differ.  Where a man puts his butt is just as important as ‘what he does for a living,’ or ‘who he’s slept with,’ when sifting the keepers from the disposables.  You have to realize one’s habits and even their pet peeves reveal a great deal about their character.

So back to some questions we need to ask….

How many sexual partners have you had?  Can be answered by asking “Does your epidermis meet the enamel in a public bathroom?” or “Do you eat food from any and everybody?”

Don’t think these are synonymous… oh but they are.

If a guy is willing to leave his clean toilet (at least we hope it is) or at least one in which he knows who has been on it, and use a public restroom, but fails to employ one of the following precautionary steps:

1. Line the toilet seat with toilet paper, or for the first-world nations, use that ready-made, lily white, Kimberly-Clark paper toilet seat lining that is ever present in every restroom right above the toilet,   

OR

2. If times real (trini twang) hard, and do not afford the aforementioned luxuries, do ‘the stoop’ maintaining that 2-3 inch distance between the seat and his butt,

and places his butt on a public toilet seat used by god knows who, and infested with god knows what germs, then I might conclude that this guy is not too particular about where he would put his other genital either, need I say more?

How about this one….

“When your food falls on the floor, do you believe and follow the five-second rule?” Similarly “How often do you brush your teeth?”

These are very pertinent questions. If your beau is willing to pick something up off the floor, or the counter, or the sink whose prior destination was his mouth but took a detour to said germ-infested surfaces, yet still arrives safely to the aforementioned destination (mouth), then I say to you what else is he willing to do with his mouth, then press those thought-to-be-succulent, germified lips up to yours? Your mouth is a crater for disease and infection, it is one of the dirtiest places in your body, possessing approximately 20 billion microbes, so why add to that scum and then share…I say no!

Our friends at MSNBC’s Today show shared this information about the “five-second rule”

Myth: Use the 5-second rule when things fall on the floor. 
Fact: People joke about it all the time, but any amount of time something 
spends on the floor is long enough for dropped objects to become 
contaminated with illness-causing bacteria like salmonella and E. coli. 
So it's always best to throw out dropped food and clean fallen items 
with hot water and soap before giving them back to your baby.
 Recently the rule was put to the test. A high school student contaminated a 
floor with E. coli, bacteria found in human waste. She dropped cookies
and gummy bears on this contaminated floor, picked them up after
1-5 seconds and tested bacterial levels. She found that even as little 
as two seconds on the floor left significant amounts of E. coli
on the food items. So, if a piece of food falls on the floor, throw it out. 
A dropped pacifier should be replaced with a clean one.

See my friends, scientific research disproves the “five-second rule.” It is now up to you to decide whose mouth you will allow to touch yours. I say no to all 5-seconder rulers!

“What kind of tip do you like to give?

Well ladies you know this question speaks to a lot of facets of this male’s character, and is also quite indicative of his financial situation.

Non-tipper – cheap…stay away at all costs, we don’t want any stingy, misers, who are not willing to splurge on themselves, far more on you.

10% tipper – well this type of guy, is trying to be frugal without appearing to be a reincarnated Ebenezer Scrooge so he chips in the required tip, and therefore remains in the safe zone, not leaving room for you to question his decision. However, this character can be exacting not just with money but with other issues also, and furthermore he may be covering up his true penny-pincherism.

On the other hand this tipping mentality could also mean, he really does not have the money, and you can then assess whether his is a financial situation with which you can be satisfied.

15-20% tipper – Well ladies, this young man over here, he could be Mr. Generous, Mr. Well-off, or Mr. Show-off.

  • Mr. Generous -There are some men that are genuinely concerned about the well-being of their server and the fact that the tips they receive from customers should be substantial to make their take-home salary worth talking about.  This is the type of guy you want to get to know because that generous nature will be manifested in the way he treats you. Hopefully he is generous with his heart too.
  • Mr. Well-off – He may just have the financial means to be a generous tipper and so he does it. I guess this means no more cheap dinners for you. But remember, his pocket does not determine his personality, so be wise.
  • Mr. Show-off – Hmmmm…. Well a guy that’s that happy about himself, and can’t wait to tell the world all about him even by the way that he tips, is probably someone who won’t want to tell the world all about his fantastic you, or give you the time of day, so it may be best to stay away from this one.

20% + tipper – ATTENTION this guy may have a head injury, please stay away! Just kidding.  This gentleman may be filthy rich, or extremely generous, no I think filthy rich because he has to have it to be that generous anyway. Use your own discretion. As we know, money is not all, but sometimes there are some special guys who are gems that own an abundance of them.

But of all the questions we need to ask, the most important is:

Do you pray?????

– followed by why, when, and how often!!!!

Ladies, prayer is the way in which we communicate with God. Prayer is our minute by minute, hour by hour, daily conversation with our loving Lord and Savior. Prayer is what leads us, guides us, uplifts us, supports us, and encourages us. Prayer exhibits faith, restores hope, brings joy, and instills peace. It is this type of communication that is most important when weeding out the keepers from the disposables. If your guy prays, but not only prays, if he prays often (as in constantly) – you just may have found a keeper. For if the answer to this question is yes, it indicates from whom your beau gets his strength. This indicates that he wants God to lead in his life. Such an answer indicates that this gentlemen searches for direction from the most High God, and that he makes no decision without the leading of his heavenly Father. Such a revelation shows a deep relationship with Christ that can only bring forth a loving heart, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding because he (your beau) would receive an outpouring of the Holy Spirit each day. And if you both share this type of relationship with Christ, only happiness and true love can spring forth from such a union.

So Ladies, when that lovely has simply swept you off your feet, before you take the leap, be sure to ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS!!!

Love,

Ms. B

References

Germ warfare: How to protect yourself:7 myths and facts about preventing the spread of germs. MSNBC.com 01/02/2008. http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/22463584/ns/today-today_101/t/germ-warfare-how-protect-yourself/#.T6yeiutST-Y
 
Landers, Bill. Oral bacteria: How many? How fast? RDH
http://www.rdhmag.com/index/display/article-display/366845/articles/rdh/volume-29/issue-7/columns/the-landers-file/oral-bacteria-how-many-how-fast.html

Epidermis Meets Enamel

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It’s been three months, three months of bliss – three months of pure undefiled happiness. Each moment reminds me of a day spent in paradise, and every time our eyes meet, I cannot imagine a day without you in my life. Slowly it grew, like a vine creeping and crawling, slithering into the heart and mind. A fondness, a feeling, a flame so famed by its well known alias ~ LOVE… but was the feeling and flame the same.

Was it truly love?


I sure thought that it was. A love that formed its roots within the deep recesses of my heart, a love so unexpected, so unique, that I couldn’t tell the end from the start. It certainly was something of an enigma – unknown, uncontrolled, uncanny, unmatched. From sweet slumber I’d rise feeling inexplicable delight knowing that you sir was a part of my life. Smiling every day, feeling no pangs of pain, numb to disappointment, in fact there was no hurtful thing to come my way and if it did, I wouldn’t know its name – for to me before you, life was just mundane.

Oh such a sweet romance, gently idling by the phone listening for your special ring tone, hearkening to your heavenly voice, everything you said was gold, blocking out the world’s noise. Plans made creating pockets of time that could only be shared with you, these would soon become memories to reflect upon when we’d say our “I do’s”. It’s been three months, three months of moonlit walks, and candle lit kisses, savory foods and delectable dishes. It’s amazing how much we’ve connected over the meals shared in spots that are now more to us than just the places that supplied our fare, yes much more, they’ve become a notch on the timeline of our love.

It’s been three months, three months since our first kiss shared in the dark of the universe where there was only us, and I knew, I knew it was true because for me, you were more than a dream, you were the epitomy of what it meant to be a soulmate – you were a soul-me. Three months, three months since I first noticed the way my legs twitched every time I felt your lips. It’s been three months, three months since you showed me what a gentleman truly was, a man who would lift me off my feet just so they wouldn’t have to touch the scuzzy streets. It’s been three months, three months since I first knew what it felt like to be wrapped in the arms of a man who truly knows how to love… three months. Three months and you wait till the clock is about to strike midnight less two on the eve of the new year that crashes through, and you say as you look into my eyes and hold me tight in your arms, “Will you be my boo?” and I respond “Yes” but was I just unleashing the storm all because I chase after the one?

Is he “the one?”

All that’s been said without a mention of God, not a gentle prayer whispered or a request for guidance whistled, no… just an uninterrupted spiral of sentimentalism over the man who seems to glisten. Is he truly the one when there’s no time left to consult with God about the one whom the heart He (the creator) gave you, craves for? THE ONE who made you, who knew you before He formed you in your mother’s womb (Jeremiah 1:5), THE ONE who knows what’s best for you, is  THE ONE whom you deprive of telling you whom you should allow into your life.  God is THE ONE who can help you choose, who knows the inner workings of “the one” you claim is for you. Without His direction, this connection is destined to fail, so save yourself the heartache and please let God’s will prevail. Do not make the mistake of the many before you, mistaking “THE ONE” – Your heavenly Father, for the “the one” – a mere man. Let THE ONE true God lead you to finding “the one” i.e. the helpmeet Jesus-picked and chosen for you – that’s when you will experience true bliss –pure and undefiled happiness. This is the only way you will know a love so true!

Here are  some great articles  you should check out!

~How to Find True Love~

~Grain of Faith Blog~

Love well

Always,

Ms. B

T.H.E O.N.E Part 2

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Have you ever heard the phrase…”Parents just don’t understand”…. I am sure it is fair to say that “Men just don’t understand!” Sometimes I feel as if I am screaming at the top of my voice and no one (especially the one I’m talking to) can hear me. Why is it that men just can’t hear what you’re saying. I mean after all, you call yourself my better half and yet it seems that when I think something – you do not, and when I form this thought into words, you speak a different language. Of course you must be thinking I’m crazy, how can I possibly expect him to know what I’m thinking? Well I don’t, BUT I do expect that we will communicate in such a way that our thinking patterns and understanding of each other’s needs and wants coincide. Unfortunately expectations are funny that way, because while I thought my better half and I would share no language barriers, the harsh reality is when women speak, men hear dogs barking, birds chirping, cats meowing, or donkeys braying…cause they sure don’t hear what you’re trying to tell them. Many of my educated sisters may say “I am at a loss as to what to do because I have tried to dumb it down or intellectually spice it up but it just does not seem to work!” “I could even say it in the three or four different languages I know, but it is no surprise that these attempts to communicate the simplest of things prove futile.” Can you feel the frustration?

Scene: Jane and John sit on the couch, Jane rests her feet on John and says 

“Honey I’m stressed out!” John gently touches the soles of her feet. 

Jane thinks it is the beginning of a wonderful massage, however it stops there. 

Jane is not satisfied and wants more so she gently touches him and says “Can I have a back rub too?” 

He responds with a pat on the back, two strokes of her feet and 

a touch of four of the five toes God blessed her with. 

Jane is left dissatisfied, and stumped as to the disconnect between 

the words that left her mouth and those which entered John’s ear.

 

Lost in translation much?

It seems that in relationships it is truly important that when partners attempt to communicate with each other despite the apparent language barrier, they need to be fully connected to God as were the apostles during the day of Pentecost. When the apostles were preaching to men of different nations who literally spoke languages different from their own, this audience of foreigners was able to understand the apostles perfectly. Through the working of the Holy Spirit, when these apostles who were Galilean spoke, the men in the audience heard these things in their own language (Acts 2:4-12). The apostles through their relationship with Christ received the Holy Spirit who then made their Aramaic/Hebrew words comprehensible to the hearers who spoke Latin, Persian, Arabic and perhaps more. How much more then can the Holy Spirit do for us in our relationships? If we would but commit and consecrate our lives to God and seek to understand His will, what a blessing we would receive when our mouths are opened or our ears are perked. God has the power to give us great depths of understanding and eloquence of verse just as He did for Moses who was fearful to speak before Pharaoh (Exodus 4:10-12).

 

Daily, we rely on our mobile phones as a constant means of communication, but there are times when we call our significant others and misunderstandings result due to dropped calls or poor reception. No fault of yours of course, but your patience wanes and the decision is made to switch phone services. Well people you should leave  AT&T and Verizon, Bmobile and Digicel, and switch to the most reliable communication service there is – ‘Jesus Mobile,’ for there is no service provider more efficient, reliable, and inexpensive as when you dial with or to a Jesus line. Calls are crystal clear, all cell towers function optimally without interruption, dropped calls are non-existent, and an in-service interpreter is always there. When it’s time to communicate with your spouse, significant other, friend, relative, and even your foe, just call on your Jesus mobile because only He can soften the edges of our would be sharp tongues, and improve the acuity of our faulty hearing. Only He can allow us to speak, hear, and listen in love. His is the best intepretation/translation service, whose capabilities surpass Google Translate and Rosetta Stone. He is the only one who can make our relationships stronger via clear, comfortable, communication because He is the one who works on the heart, improves the mind, teaches us love, and cleanses the soul. Listening to, and learning our partners is linked to loving our partners, and the better we love them, the better we can communicate with, and listen to what they say, even when no words escape. 

 

So ladies…. Is it that men  are deaf or they just don’t understand or is it that we simply need to switch our lines of communication?

Here’s an interesting link which describes how we ourselves can become language barriers and how we can improve on this ~ Communicating God’s way ~

Hopefully Clearly Speaking,

Ms. B

Oblivious or Obtuse?

T.H.E O.N.E – Part 1

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It all began on that fateful day when I happened to be driving by a green expanse opposite the very symbol that would be the protagonist in the fiendish plot to keep us apart. But what a beautiful and memorable day it was when we both realized that this seemingly serendipitous meeting was simply meant to be.  How was it possible to cross three lanes of traffic and get a parking spot where there never seemed to be parking at that time of day? How was it possible that two people who had not seen each other in years would be able to glimpse each other from across the way in the blur of the busy of life? All conditions pointed to probabilities of inverse infinity therefore making these series of events impossibilities, were it not for a blessing from above said the two hearts seemingly already in love.  Pleasantries exchanged, a smile here and there, mostly little chuckles both trying so hard to be suave and debonair. Finally it was time to part after all of ten minutes, but those ten minutes seemed to be the longest and strongest – for a bond was formed that day that would prove difficult to tear apart.

It was not but a few days later when those flirting words turned into “Can I take you on a date?” to which a swift reply came, “But of course, better sooner than late.” Excited at the prospect of having the one you’ve dreamed of express their interest in you, makes the heart flutter, the mind wander, and the stomach uneasy too.  The first date goes smoothly, you seem to love everything he does from the smirk on his face, to the size of his waist, and the fact that he doesn’t do dutch. He makes you laugh, he makes you smile, and your head fills up with thoughts of walking down the aisle. You think to yourself where has he been all my life? As the days go by, smooth sailing occurs, no ups and downs, no twists or turns. Everyday seems dreamier than the day the before, and before you know it, your heart leaps out the door, and you confidently declare – no need to look any further, for THE ONE I’ve searched for all my life is finally here! And you feel just as this poet did.

The sun, it did shine
 the day you came into my life
 and everything that was wrong
 became all right
 everything that was upside down
 turned around
And I smiled because finally
 my heart had found its home
 and I didn’t need anyone to tell me
 that you are where I belong
 I knew, I just knew
 that it was you
And the morning sun it would rise
 and dance through the happiness
 that shone in my eyes
 And all my dreams they did come true
 every second that was spent with you
 And every wish I had ever made
 came to life that one fateful day
And I smiled because finally
 my life and everything made perfect sense
 and I didn’t need someone to tell me
 that this was love or what it meant
 I knew, I just knew
 I was meant for you ~ By Anonymous~

But then it seemed as soon as those words rolled off your lips, no sooner would you have wished them back into the recesses of your left brain before your neurons triggered the action potential to make vocal organs bring forth these seemingly coherent wisps. Words which now seem to have been the utterance of a fool that rushed in. But don’t worry, you are not alone, you have company at the soulmate inn.  We have all been there one time or another.  The concept of “The One” has plagued us all, and it forces us to wonder “Does the concept of ‘The One really exist?” 

Stay tuned for part two as we explore the role of God, the guy, and the girl as we journey through the world of love to find the ephemeral answer to this perpetual question.  Until then, I leave you with a listen of the song Soulmate.

Writing from the heart,
Ms. B

The 3G Journey

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Welcome to God Guys and Girls: An Introspective look into Love’s True Triangle!

Travel with  Angie and  I (Ms. B)  on our  journey through  God’s Universe to the most popular tourist destinations: – the  city of love and the planets of Mars ( guys) and Venus (girls).  Share our experiences and tell about your own as we laugh, cry, reflect,  and meditate on God’s word together.

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction Proverbs 1:7

This text will be the basis of our words as our goal is to give advice based on God’s word, His principles, and our experiences so we all can increase in wisdom, knowledge and understanding as we deal with the ups and downs of  our love-lives. We want you to learn from us and we hope to learn from you as well,  so follow our blog and feel free to put  in your 2 cents : )

Enjoy the journey! We look forward to hearing from you!

Angie & Ms B.