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Parenting your child leader


Sooooo my friend Darryl WROTE A BOOK!!!


I’m so proud of him and what he’s accomplished at only 28.
(Are you 28 Darryl? LOL).

It’s available from amazon if you are interested in picking up a copy and here’s their description…

“Darryl Bodkin has written a wonderful treatise on child development and leadership. He writes from a child’s perspective on parenting and provides invaluable insight on the subject of leadership growth and development… I commend Darryl Bodkin’s book to you for your enjoyment and personal growth. I believe every parent who reads it will benefit from the lessons taught on parenting and will gain an understanding of how to encourage the development of leadership qualities in children. Proverbs 3:5-6 is a sterling reminder of the potential for vital Christian leadership within every child that is born into God’s big world. Dr. Stan A. Toler Bestselling Author Oklahoma City, Oklahoma”

Congratulations D!



How I Know My Wife Married the “Wrong” Person


Wow this was really interesting … there’s also a Pat 2 linked in the post


wedding 2
Photo Credit: Suni Danielle Photography

Today my wife Lindsay and I celebrate our two year anniversary. Two years ago, we tied the knot and took the plunge. Two years ago, the cutest girl in Indiana was taken off the market! Two years ago, we launched the beginning of the rest of our lives. Two years ago…

And after two years, there’s no hiding behind the dinner-and-a-movie façade of dating life any longer. I can’t buy enough flowers to conceal it. I can’t open enough doors. I can’t say enough “I love you’s.” She knows (and painfully, so do I) that she married the wrong person.

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My testimony


My blogging friend, Robin over at “A Christian Overcomer“, recently asked me to share my testimony for her blog page. I never really gave much thought to how I came to accept Christ as my Saviour. I have always heard awe-inspiring stories of former drug addicts, prostitutes, alcoholics, abusers and abuse survivors, accident survivors, and the list goes on. The theme was that something really challenging in your life brought you to understand that you need God. Well, that wasn’t me. I had no “story”.

However, I’ve been thinking about my life off-and-on since Robin asked me for a testimony. I grew up in a Christian home, I accepted Christ as my Lord and Saviour at a very young age while at a Bible camp. My parents were married and together and owned their own house. My brothers and sister treated me well enough (sibling rivalries existed but it was all in good spirit). I never went to bed hungry. I did well in school and went to a prestigious school. My tertiary education was free. I had time for co-curricular activities and made a lot of friends as a result. Yes, an immediate family member died in a car accident, but my family is all the more closer for it.

The point I am making is that my testimony is that God protected me from a challenging life. So Robin, this post is for you. I hope anyone out there who feels that they have no testimony because they did not have a dramatic turn around, realizes that they do!




“God’s way isn’t to make everything okay. God’s way is to give us strength to endure and the vision to see that our circumstances – no matter how dire or grim – are never as big as He is.”

Still Standing: 8 winning strategies for facing tough times by James Merritt

I’m reading this book now amongst others.
It’s a light read (I’ve laughed through many passages) and very encouraging. 
Pick it up or check it out from your local library if you can.


“God’s way isn’…

Banish depressing thoughts


Has anyone ever told you you when you were depressed to write out how you are feeling? I tried that and ended up with a tear-soaked page that I just wanted to rip to shreds when I was done. Today I tried something different (Thanks Ms. B for the suggestion).

Get your pen and paper and write 20 things that you should be thankful for right now. It could be anything… don’t take anything for granted.

I tried this today and felt instantly better. I wasn’t even disappointed that I was far from my target of 20 things. The point is that now my mind and heart are dwelling on joyful things instead of depressing things. I dare you to try it, feed your joy!

4 Sing unto the Lord, O ye His saints, and give thanks at the remembrance of His holiness. 5 For His anger endureth but a moment, and in His favor is life; weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. – Psalm 30:4-5



Keeping New Year Resolutions


Happy New Year

I trust you’ve enjoyed a holy and blessed Christmas season and are now entering the New Year with hope and faith. At this time of year many of us are making resolutions for the New Year. And by March many of us will either forget the resolution, give up or fail miserably. So how do we make New Year Resolutions stick?

Last year I made a pretty simple resolution. It was something physical: I will do one pull up by the end of the year. So I started doing a lot of lat pull downs to prepare myself to hold my own body weight, I did negative pull ups with a bench to support me, and my mantra in the gym was “I can do all things through Christ … including one pull up!” (Philipians 4:13). By March my resolution was fulfilled and I just adjusted my goal to 5 and then to 12 pull ups and by December I was doing 3 sets of 12!

In retrospect I wonder why out of all my resolutions was this one successful. And being my logical self I wanted to formulate a plan for success for all my future resolutions. So this is what I came up with.

1. Pray

Before deciding on a resolution, really pray and ask God for discernment on what you can improve in your life. In the above situation I was thinking about my health and not my looks. My motivation was knowing that a goal like that will indicate an improvement in the strength and health of my body. It wasn’t an unholy or vain goal for the Bible tells us our bodies are temples of the holy Spirit (1 Cor 6:19) and as such we must take care of our temples while we can.

This year I have decided on a more intangible resolution. I would like to be more decisive and more confident.

In terms of decisiveness, I have meditated on a couple passages:

So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth. Rev 3:16

I am your servant; give me discernment that I may understand your statutes. Psalm 119:125

Being lukewarm about many things in my life have really backfired for me this year. So just as we should not be lukewarm Christians, we shouldn’t be lukewarm friends, lukewarm employees or lukewarm students. In order not to be lukewarm we need to know what are the right decisions to commit to. The Bible says the Holy Spirit was sent to teach us (John 14:26) therefore we must consciously pray and read the Word to find out what path it is God wants for us to.

In terms of confidence, I believe the Holy Spirit led me to skip a few pages in a book I was reading and find this passage:

“As believers we are not to be self-confident but God-confident… we are to have confidence on God – that He will work through us”. Straight talk on insecurity – Joyce Meyer

It was such a simple yet profound statement and really changed my perspective on what it truly is to be a confident Christian… not arrogance or self-reliant but trusting in God’s promises to us!

2. Do

So now that you  have decided on a good resolution to have, you need to consciously work on it. Ask God what is the best way to go about fulfilling your resolution. Also keep in mind you can’t do it by yourself! Like I said before my mantra in the gym was all about doing through Christ and not by my own merits. God’s “weakness: is greater than any strength we may have (1 Cor 1:25) so we can depend on him to fill us with the power to resolve.

3. Share

I had a habit of not sharing my resolutions. Last year I told my gym buddy about my decision and he had really good advice on how to get to my goal. Find someone you trust and share what you want to change. Now you have someone to be accountable to and someone to encourage you if you slip up… and trust me, slip ups will happen! Be careful who you choose to share with though. Unfortunately there are people out there who are not good neighbours. Even better is if they share with you as well so you can be mutually accountable. And don’t let any setbacks fill your mind with doubts. Doubts are manifestations of fear and fear is not from God (2 Tim 1:7). Fear battles your faith and without faith we cannot please God! (Heb 11:6).

4. Remember God in your success

The joy you feel when your resolution is complete is so amazing. The first day I did one pull up the immediate thought in my mind was “Thank God”. Let God know you are grateful for your fulfilled resolution. Let Him know that you remember it was through Him that you were successful and not by your own efforts.

So I hope these little guidelines help in whatever decision you have made for the year. Remember to stay in the Word and continue to pray that your desires are His desires.

Happy New Year


P.S. For those embarking on new health journeys this year, here’s a free app for tracking your journey and progress

When being a Christian becomes hard… (reblog)


This was an awesome article and says everything I want to say!

I became a Christian when I was six years old. My dad was reading me the story of Zacchaeus, and something just clicked. I finally understood what this whole salvation thing was about (well, as well as a precocious six year old girl can). But as I sat there listening to the story of a small man who just wanted to see Jesus, I wanted to be saved. I wanted to accept Christ into my heart as my Savior. I wanted to be a real Christian. I was ready.

So my dad prayed with me before I went to bed, and the next day I woke up reborn. Renewed. I was a different person.

My faith was easy when I was younger. Things usually are. You have fewer questions, you rarely doubt, and the mysteries seem more entrancing than distressing. You are able to accept things, because you don’t have…

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Give thanks


Do you know how hard it is to give thanks when practically

EVERYTHING is going wrong?

This week my pay got docked, I suffered from fatigue and pain associated with a surgery I recently had, and a truck crashed into my mom’s car!

BUT according to my Weekly Gratitude Review the things I were grateful for were…

Monday (08/20)

12:28 PM
My surgery went without a hitch. And I can taste sugar again. I think that was the most daunting thing cuz I love my food!! 

Tuesday (08/21)

11:23 AM
Caribbean Pot with Chris. I’m so excited to try these recipes! 

Wednesday (08/22)

11:16 AM
My mum is alive! Thank God! 

Thursday (08/23)

09:54 AM
That was sweet of  my uncle to call and check up on me. So far my recovery has been pretty good. No infections, not a lot of pain/discomfort. And I’m back at the gym which is great. Also trying to get back into school. It’s hard! 

Friday (08/24)

09:31 AM
I could smell soup cooking yay!!

It’s amazing how quickly you lose sight of the things that matter. And that’s why I just wanted to share with you guys this FREE service called grateful160. I used this to prepare my weekly gratitude review above.

Basically, you’re sent an email up to four times daily that you reply to with a a short reflection of gratitude which is stored in your journal. Each week you get an email summary of all you had to be thankful for over the week. I’ve been using it for about 2 months now and I must say it’s a great feeling at the end of the week to see what you were blessed with all week. I chose to be reminded once a day, and for my summary to be delivered on a Friday (usually my most bummy day!) and it’s an instant lift!

Furthermore, forcing yourself to focus on your blessings really sets up the foundation for your daily prayers. Anyway I hope you check out the service… or at the least be grateful!

16 Rejoice always, 17 pray continually, 18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thes 5:16-18.

Confessions Part I


Special edition cover

These are my confessions

Just when I thought I said all I can say

My boss on the side said he’s got one on the way

These are my confessions….

Man I know, he doesn’t know what to do

Guess I got to do his review… my confessions

When you think you’re done your work

You gotta give him more

I near cried when I got that at 4!

I’m so thrown, I don’t know what to do but to give you part 1 of my confessions….

(to the tune of Usher’s Confessions Part 2)

Sorry guys! My usual Tuesday post is delayed because of unforeseen circumstances i.e. grad school got in the way *shakes fist at further education* Look out for Confessions Part 2!